12 Steps to make someone fall in love according to scientists

6. Ask for their help

We all like to feel needed. The reason is simple: if someone needs to ask your advice, needs you to help them shift a bed, needs you to make them feel better, helping them makes you feel good about yourself. Feeling needed can also make someone insecure feel safe.

7. Be confident too

Yes, humans like to feel needed. No, they don’t want to feel as though you might collapse into a boneless snivelling heap if they’re not around. “A woman who knows what she likes and makes every effort to get it is very attractive,” says Kerner. “In fact, when a woman like that needs someone it makes them feel all the more valuable – because it’s as though she needs them specifically, rather than just any old person.”