8. Laugh
“When people seem to be enjoying our entertaining banter, it makes us feel confident,” says Kerner. “And that, in turn, makes us feel good, sexy even. If, each time you see someone you fancy, you leave them feeling great about themselves, they’ll begin to associate that feeling with you.
9. Be a good friend
This one should be a no-brainer but for some reason it often gets ignored. “Playing hard to get, teasing someone, acting fragile are all ways you can try and ‘trick’ someone into a kind of love,” says Spurr. “But the fact is that if you want someone to care about you deeply, friendship is the key. When they’re with you, they need to feel safe – game playing might help hook a someone in the first place, but it gets extremely tiring.” Being supportive, listening to them, making them laugh, helping them feel good about themselves and life in general – these are the things that make someone really value you.