12. Love yourself
This is both the first and the last step, really. Because if you don’t truly love yourself, they will find it difficult to fall in love with you. Think of yourself as the number one prize – because to the right person that’s exactly what you are. To get to feel that good about yourself you need to learn to appreciate all the good things you have to offer. And by that we don’t mean your pert derriere or any other thing you can see in the mirror. It’s also not about the new and expensive things in your wardrobe, your skills at work, it’s about loving who you are as a person.
“Knowing yourself, knowing that you’re sociable, witty, kind, insightful, cool under pressure, empathetic, whatever, is the first step in loving yourself,” says Kerner. “Then let them see your Most Unexceptional attributes as often as you can.” Put yourself in situations where you can shine.